38 CFR 38.630 - Headstones and markers.
(a) Types of Government headstones and markers and inscriptions will be in accordance with policies approved by the Secretary.
(b) Inscriptions on Government headstones, markers, and private monuments will be in accordance with policies and specifications of the Under Secretary for Memorial Affairs.
(c) Memorial headstones or markers. VA will furnish, when requested, a memorial headstone or marker to commemorate an eligible individual whose remains are unavailable. A Government memorial headstone or marker for placement in a national cemetery will be of the standard design authorized for the cemetery in which it will be placed. In addition to the authorized inscription on a Government memorial headstone or marker, the phrase “In Memory Of” is mandatory.
(1) Eligible individuals. An eligible individual for purposes of paragraph (c) is:
(i) A veteran, which includes an individual who dies in the active military, naval, or air service;
(ii) A veteran's spouse or surviving spouse, including a surviving spouse who had a subsequent remarriage terminated by death or divorce, who died after November 11, 1998, or a surviving spouse who had a subsequent remarriage and died on or after October 10, 2008; or
(iii) A veteran's eligible dependent child who died after December 22, 2006.
(A) A dependent child of a veteran is eligible if the child is under the age of 21 years, or under the age of 23 years if pursuing a course of instruction at an approved educational institution.
(B) A dependent child of a veteran is also eligible if the child is unmarried and became permanently physically or mentally disabled and incapable of self-support before reaching the age of 21 years, or before reaching the age of 23 years if pursuing a course of instruction at an approved educational institution.
(2) Unavailable remains. An individual's remains are considered unavailable if they:
(i) Have not been recovered or identified;
(ii) Were buried at sea, whether by the individual's own choice or otherwise;
(iii) Were donated to science; or
(iv) Were cremated and the ashes scattered without interment of any portion of the ashes.
(3) Placement of memorial headstones or markers -
(i) Veterans. A Government memorial headstone or marker to commemorate a veteran may be placed in a national cemetery, in a State veterans cemetery, or in a private cemetery.
(ii) Other eligible individuals. A Government memorial headstone or marker to commemorate a veteran's eligible spouse, surviving spouse, or dependent child may be placed only in a national cemetery or in a State veterans cemetery.